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Meghan Bell's avatar

Excellent analysis. I'm troubled by the entitlement I hear in calls for "universal daycare", and how it's framed as a requirement for female empowerment / feminism. The majority of daycare workers are grossly underpaid, as you note, but they are also disproportionately likely to be immigrants from poorer countries. It strikes me as deeply screwed up to out-source caring for your children on less privileged and exploited women ... I realize it's not financially feasible in many cases for families to have a stay at home parent, I'm lucky to have been able to make that choice, so not trying to "shame" anyone, just lamenting the situation. Studies find a majority of mothers would choose not to work or only work part-time when they have young children, if they could afford to. If a government investment were to go anywhere, I wish it would go to helping mothers (or fathers) be able to afford to stay home with their children.

If you haven't read it already, you might find this essay by Laura Wiley Haynes on the negative impact of daycare on babies / toddlers interesting -- https://wesleyyang.substack.com/p/universal-early-childhood-daycare. Erica Komisar also has good work on this.

Glad this popped up in my feed so I could follow you here! I read your review of Abigail Shrier's "Bad Therapy" a while ago and was relieved that SOMEONE ELSE noticed how sloppy, misleading, and questionable many of the citations and research were in that book. (I also wrote a review pointing this stuff out, and other problems, and mentioned yours in mine a couple of times -- https://thecassandracomplex.substack.com/p/bad-journalism).

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Great breakdown of the costs of providing care for very young children. I think the larger problem is that daycare just doesn’t scale. For every four infants, you need one full time adult worker who is willing to take care of four infants. I am pro-baby all the way—they are great—and I loved my own babies more than life itself, and I was lucky enough to be at home with them for their first years. When I was an at home mom I participated in a babysitting co-op and a co-op preschool—both really cost effective ways of getting occasional child care. Taking care of other people’s children is a slog. Minutes seem like hours. A two or three hour stint felt like a lifetime. Not everybody feels this way, but be honest—how many people in this world are willing to take care of other people’s kids 40 hours a week?

The best thing the government could do is to give money to parents so that they can either use it to purchase child care, or use it to cut back on work and raise their kids. If you are in the top 20% or so of wage earners, you probably have a pretty interesting career and it makes sense to keep doing what you are doing and hire out child care while you do research or invent things or heal the sick. If you are the parts manager at an auto dealership, maybe raising your own kids for a few years is the more interesting and rewarding path. Not every job is a calling, and raising your own children and being part of a community of other parents is rewarding and has other social benefits.

I’d be curious to see good quality research on the costs over a lifetime of taking 5-10 years off and then going back into the workforce. If they expect people to work until they are 70, why not subsidize a break for parents so that they can take care of their kids for a few years?

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